When we are full (of ideas, of thoughts, of ourselves), life become complicated. When we are empty, when it is only the void, and no trace of us, miracles start to happen. I was always thinking about this. How come and how often i saw it. It is some magic behind this, if not a bit of righteous psychology. And even more, this can be a kind of life attitude, being open to any kind of challenge and events. In the end, we are richer and more experienced than when we started. You should try it some time!
Motto: "Play is the work of the child." Maria Montessori
But somebody else also said: In the moment we forget how to play as a child, we die inside. A bit dramatic, but the latest researches showed this to be true to some extent. If we are focusing only on the adult side of life, on solving problems, getting bigger wages and fame or reputation, we are wrong. Doing the same thing over and over will have a deep impact on our feelings, even if it is something that we like (hedonic adaptation is a bxxxh, i know). What we need is to do something new every day (neuroplasticity reasons, anthropological reasons, magical reasons, you name it), to find new ways of play, new hobbies ( Did you know that learning how to juggle can change your life, your attitude and rewire your brain? Learning a second language will do something similar too.).
So, your task for today is to find a new way to play, as a child, in a non-competitive manner.
If you want the master level task - find a new hobby for you and become better at it in the next six months.
"The soul should always stand ajar, ready to welcome the ecstatic experience." Emily Dickinson said. We are too often thinking about the negative side of life, and we will not remember when was the last time when we were in awe, when our mind stopped and we couldn't even breath in front of some majestic beauty.
"Childhood is the world of miracle and wonder...as if creation rose, bathed in the light, out of the darkness, utterly new and fresh and astonishing." said Eugene Ionesco to us, and it is not a coincidence that one of the way to achieve huge self-esteem, will power and independence is to achieve our childhood dreams. Of course, many are completely irrelevant to us today, but in fulfilling them, in one way or another, we will reach the hidden fountain of eternal youth. It is something almost magical, an alchemy process which will invigorate and regenerate our body, mind and spirit. Try this today, all you need is pen and paper, make a list of your childhood dreams and try to achieve some of them Observe how you feel after it.
"Words are but the vague shadows of the volumes we mean. Little audible links, they are, chaining together great inaudible feelings and purposes." is a quote by Theodore Dreiser. And it is true, words can hurt or heal. One of the most interesting actions worldwide that I was watching is You Matter Marathon. Take a look and see one elegant way to change the world around you and bring joy to others.
That's all for today. Wish you an awesome week!
"You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop." Rumi said centuries ago. Despite this many of us will still feel different and set apart from the humanity, trying to individualize themselves instead of embracing the big human family. In doing this, we separate, we start to feel lonely, instead of enjoying the solitude. We ignore the pain of others, even if we remember what Albert Schweitzer said: "No one must shut his eyes and regard as nonexistent the suffering of which he spared himself the sight.". The failure to provide alternatives for all the children, women and men of Aleppo, for all the refugees trying to escape from Syria, it is not our government failure, but it is our personal failure in an equal measure. An action, even the smallest one, can create a ripple effect and reach unexpected results. Or as Paulo Coelho said: "What you give, you will receive, although it might sometimes come from the place you least expect.". We need to forget the word stranger, and to walk over the danger, as more than often the separation exists only in our mind. We should try to help someone, even if we don't know that person. We will be rewarded in a way that cannot be predicted. I will finish with Carl Jung advice: "The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances, if there is any reaction, both are transformed.".
Motto: If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart. (Nelson Mandela)
Why should we learn at least one foreign language? Not because is rewiring our brain, making us smarter, faster and brilliant, but because talking to someone in his/her native language will always bring admiration and respect from the other person. We will catch a glimpse into another culture, another kind of psychology, and we will touch even someone else soul. Having access to a world class poet or writer in his native language is a must for every one of us to achieve, a bucket list thing. There are endless possibilities, and everything starts with a bit of effort. Try this, learn another language, even if it is just to know what to order in your favorite restaurant.
This is a short list with some of the quotes I liked in the past month:
Don't be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth.
- Rumi -
What we fear most is that we will be denied the opportunity to fulfill our true potential.
- Dan Pallotta -
Satisfactions are fulfillment of the heart. Dissatisfactions are the rumblings of the mind.
- Duane Elgin -
Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point.
- C.S. Lewis -
If we could surrender to Earth's intelligence, we would rise up rooted, like trees.
- Rainer Maria Rilke -
Humility in response to an experience of failure, then, is at its core a form of therapy, the beginning of a healing process.
- Costica Bradatan -
You cannot transform yourself, and you certainly cannot transform your partner or anybody else. All you can do is create a space for transformation to happen, for grace and love to enter.
- Eckart Tolle -
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive.
- Mother Theresa -
My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion. - Maya Angelou -
Faith is not the clinging to a shrine but an endless pilgrimage of the heart.
- Abraham Joshua Heschel -
Choosing Must is the greatest thing we can do with our lives
- Elle Luna -
Never believe that a few caring people can't change the world. For, indeed, that's all who ever have.
- Margaret Mead -
To control aggression without inflicting injury is the Art of Peace.
- Morihei Ueshiba -
If we apply our minds directly and competently to the needs of the earth, then we will have begun to make fundamental and necessary changes in our minds.
- Wendell Berry -
Listen to the trees as they sway in the wind. Their leaves are telling secrets.
- Vera Nazarian -
The human heart is the first home of democracy.
- Terry Tempest Williams -
One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well.
- Virginia Woolfe -
Whether we live in poverty or prosperity, we can still live generously.
- Dillon Burroughs -
Got my first company at 16, more than 20 years ago. Just a market stall, but still paid all my university expenses. Accountant for 10 years, then, one day i felt enough is enough, and i left everything. Changed countries, start working in healthcare, 6 years from now, advanced from NVQ 1 to 5. Meanwhile i studied yoga for more than 20 years, learn few languages, studied finances and economy trends, become an angel investor on small scale, start to learn about start-ups, shares, bonds, real estate and other boring stuff. Aiming for Tim Ferris four hour workweek, but I'm not quite there. Training towards a life coach, therapist and motivational speaker career. And all that when I'm still travelling around the world, going to any seminar or movie I'm interested to see, being in a meaningful relation and doing exercises few times a week. In my peak state i am an unstoppable genius, in my lowest I'm just a lazy guy who like to watch Game of Thrones or play LoL / HoS / Hearthstone. Average person with amazing skills in a crisis situation. Have driving licence but do not like to drive. Anything except maybe an ATV. Still need to learn Chinese, jump with parachute and play an instrument.